Monday Quote: Time

 “Time’s a goon, right? You gonna let that goon push you around?” Scotty shook his head. “The goon won.”
Jennifer Egan, A Visit from the Goon Squad

It’s only the start of the week and I’m already worried there won’t be enough time. How does anyone manage to live life and work at the same time? (I’m only in my second full by the way).

Planning my time

Taking a look at the week ahead – work, baseball, work, baseball, work, baseball, work, baseball, wedding shower. My son’s tournament team will finally play its first game, on a weeknight at 7:45 p.m. Did I mention that the games will be played almost an hour from our house? I guess the coaches weren’t kidding when they told us it would be a big commitment from the kids and from the parents.  I’m not looking forward to the late nights, but I see the pride my son carries being part of this particular team and I know this is time well spent.

Bad timing

But the tournament week has bad timing. My brothers and sisters in-law and I are hosting a wedding shower for our niece this weekend. 50 guests and we are not having it catered. I love doing this and I wanted to do this, but now that it’s here – there’s not enough time. The day approaches too quickly. No matter how much we have prepared in advance the final shopping, chopping, assembling and cooking cannot be done until the end. So, in addition to working around several night games this week, I already anticipate Thursday, Friday and Saturday being a flurry of activities to beat the clock. (Did I mention that the tournament team could potentially play at the same time as the shower on Saturday?!?)

Where does time go?

I don’t know how our niece can be getting married anyway? Wasn’t it only yesterday that I was decorating for her mom’s baby-shower? I remember the crepe streamers vividly. I also remember Sara, a beautiful and fresh-faced pre-teen, brightening up the dance floor at my wedding. Seems to me she should be in high school, not the guest of honor at a bridal shower. Where did all that time go?

So, yes, this week I am going to surrender to the goon. It’s going to kick my butt.

New Review: Stone Arabia

I’m thinking about past events. I’m interested in recall, exact recall, of what was said, who said it and to whom. I want to know the truth, undistorted by time and revision and wishes and regrets.”

So says Denise Kranis, the 40-ish narrator of Dana Spiotta’s brilliant novel, Stone Arabia. Denise is comparing her own story-telling to that of her brother Nik’s, which involves much more elaborately constructed and documented versions of reality. I love this truth-seeking premise, even more so for the way Spiotta juxtaposes the siblings’ styles and temperaments. They are both truth seekers, but who’s to say which is the real truth?

Everything about this book feels fresh and modern. Jennifer Egan’s A Visit from the Good Squad received much more buzz, but this is the better book. For one thing, we care about the characters so much more. Denise is a woman I know in my heart. She is solid and trustworthy, but also broken and seeking. She scrapes by, adores her daughter, takes care of her mother (whose struggles with dementia add another layer to the truth & memory subtext).

Most importantly, she spoils and forgives her ne’er-do-well brother, Nik. Nik has all the trappings of a modern-day loser. A musician poised just on the wrong side of success, he is an unapologetic addict, who does not seem worthy of Denise’s loyalty. And yet, Spiotta writes him with such passion, that I loved him too.

Getting dizzy-high was just the beginning. Swing sets were his gateway drug. Nik had an intense appetite, a special extra need, and as he grew older he grew hungry for any and all alterations. I watched it; it was impossible not to miss his difference, how he craved anything that undid his equilibrium.”

Spiotta smartly tells her story in short chapters from Denise, which move both forward and backward in time. We know she is after some explanation (some truth) to explain where (Nik’s place) and why (upset) she is the moment we meet her.  But to get to that explanation, we have to know Denise and how she thinks, what she longs for. This unveiling is where Spiotta truly shines.

I felt the memory of my father on my body, the way you feel a breeze or the heat of the sun. He did not feel – and so was not – entirely lost to me. Inside, beyond my recall of events and dates and talk, there was this hot-wired memory of his body…your experiences, the hard felt ones, don’t fade. They are written forever in your flesh, your nerves, your fingertips.”

Into these passages, she intersperses excerpts of Nik’s Journals, which read like the Rolling Stone version of Denise’s recollections.  Add to this mix, Denise’s daughter, a documentary film-maker and you start to get the many layers Spiotta adds to the story-telling.

My eternal thanks to Kathy, for reminding me over and over that I really needed to read this book. She was right.

 

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